• Jessica Hayden, PhD

Don't Just Do Something.

Ever in a situation where you feel like you need to do something? I always feel like I need to DO something. FIX something, HEAL someone, HELP someone, give them the rope and the manual on how to climb out of the hole. I want to help, not watch you suffer. I’m a doer not a watcher; I’m involved, not disassociated; I’m the girl who’s on all the committees because I want to be in the mix and a part of the betterment. I bite off more than I can chew and I think I can create change! I’m a take the reins and give your horse a kick kinda girl… why wait, JUST GO!!!!!

Whoa There!!!! PULL UP!!! I feel called to action… but I just need to PAUSE. Sit with it. Struggle, discomfort, and frustration are all a part of the recipe for growth. We even talk about it in education when kids are learning new concepts or learning to read-it’s in the struggle time when the “a-hah” moments click. Sure growth comes easily at times, but generally speaking we have to work at whatever it is we want in life. It’s not just going to come to us; I mean-yes the Hiltons and the Kardashians of the world may get hand outs, but they still have to work at maintaining that or at some point it’s all going to be gone. Some people are born with a talent, but it takes practice and nurturing to develop that talent into genius. I recall a conversation I had with a friend, we talked about how people say, “marriage is hard work.” My friend said, “it shouldn’t be that way, I already have a job.” I replied, “everything you do in life is work”, life takes nurturing and cultivating. It just does. Plants don’t grow without water and sun; muscles atrophy without use and blood supply; a research paper doesn’t just write itself, and love is no different. Sometimes, you have to sit back and welcome discomfort and struggle. You have to celebrate the failures because without all of that you wouldn’t grow and appreciate the wins.


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